Giving your partner a gentle “nudge” to do something has now gone digital.
App Love Nudge for Couples, based on well-known marriage counselor, Gary Chapman’s, “5 Love Languages” is giving couples a more modern way to strengthen their relationship.
Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages – The Secret To Love That Lasts book that the app is based on has stood the test of time. First published in 1992, it has gone on to sell over twelve million copies and been on the New York Times bestsellers list continuously since 2007.
As the website suggests “The premise is simple: different people with different personalities express love in different ways.”
The book describes the innate tendency for individuals to give love in the way in which they wish to receive it. Which is often at odds with their partner’s primary language and therefore not received with its full intent.
It’s obvious to say that frictions, pressure, and miscommunication in relationships mount when one partner does not feel as loved as the other. For decades now the love languages have given people a way to relate to one another that directly addresses the root cause of that tension.
These languages are quality time, receiving gifts, words of affirmation, acts of service and physical touch. And they don’t just relate to intimate relationships. Since the book was first published the teachings have been translated into multiple variations including for workplaces, teenagers, military, children, men, and singles.
Studies have shown how critical habits are to success in all aspects of our lives, and relationships are no exception. The release of the Love Nudge for Couples app not only provides education around each language, but it also creates a system for creating healthy habits within the relationship, to support continued improvements.
Replacing its previous inception as the “5 Love Languages” app, Love Nudge includes an updated love languages quiz, goal trackers, reminders, statistics and the ability to sync with your partner to send and receive “nudges”.
After taking the free quiz to identify your primary love language, you’re then able to track your progress in filling up your partner’s “love tank” and send suggestions (nudges) to guide your partner how to fill yours.
Scrolling through the reviews on Google Play and Apple stores, minus a few comments about minor technical glitches, many people have suggested even using it on your own is valuable, regardless of your partner’s eagerness to participate in the game.
Since its release in January 2019, the app has had over 500,000 installs on Google Play. It has a rating of 4.3 stars on Android from over 4,000 reviews and 4.5 on Apple based on close to 2,000 reviews.
Stress, regardless of where it’s formed, affects our performance at workand our mental and physical health. This can spill over into relationships creating instability.
Relationships – like anything worthwhile – take intentional commitment over time. Like physical fitness, healthy relationships are built on developing healthy habits. App description on Apple store
Tools like Love Nudge give people back that sense of control, allowing them to “experience love more deeply”. And, surely love is an appropriate antidote to reducing stress.